Join Me For Women, Wine & Wisdom

What's better than a virtual happy hour? A six-week virtual happy hour.

Join me and six other fabulous ladies and speakers for wine, great conversation, and fabulous topics.

The fabulous Karen Schachter has invited me to be a speaker for her Women, Wine & Wisdom event.  

Once a week, for 6 weeks, meet a different amazing expert.  We will discuss passion, money, sexuality, leadership, body image and eating. And each week, you'll get a chance to win some incredible wine from the One Hope Wine Company.

So grab your glass and join me in your very own living room. 

I'll be talking about the importance of knowing what you truly want; how your beliefs affect your partner (or your future partner); how your fantasies about relationships may be hurting you; and the most effective ways to communicate your desires and needs, without scaring someone off.

I'lll see you on May 11 at 8pm EST - 9:15 pm. To join me, click the button below.  

Unhappily Ever After

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As a facilitator, team building and conferences are a constant occurrence. One particular weekend, I was in a training where we were required to break up into several different groups for small group discussions.

The first group was categorized according to whether we were in a relationship or single. When all of the people in a relationship gathered into a group, one of the guys looked up and said, “Wait, should we break up according to whether we are happy or unhappy?”

There wasn’t any laughter, discussion, or hesitation, just a small feminine voice that said, “Great idea.” What followed was a phenomenon that resembled the parting of the Red Sea.

Men and women, without skipping a beat, divided themselves further into happy and unhappy groups, and then looked up and waited for the next set of instructions.

In first grade, when I was marrying my Barbie dolls, humming “Here comes the bride”, and reciting their vows, happiness never crossed my mind. Ken and Barbie were either married or unmarried.

Even at that age, I fantasized about my wedding and my husband. Back then, I knew I was going to marry Ralph Tresvant from New Edition, Michael Jackson, and Prince.

As little girls, we all fantasized about our weddings. What would our dress look like? How would they propose? Weddings were infused in our brains. They became a show where we could see ourselves as the star.

But this talk of weddings eventually leads us to make comparisons in our own lives.  We want the most expensive ring, or the designer wedding gown, or a two-week honeymoon. Or we just want the wedding.

We don't tend to focus on how “right” our partner is for us.  And if we haven’t yet found “the one” or have decided against a wedding, somehow our lives aren’t as “special” as our closest friends.

And so begins an endless circle of self-criticism, judgment, or feeling less than.

As a society, we focus all of our attention on one day. We focus on the dress, ring, or price tag of the wedding or the idea that two people are now married. And for those couples who have been together forever, we applaud them for staying together for forty, fifty, or sixty years.

But we don’t ever ask about whether they are compatible or even about the presence of betrayal, infidelity, abuse, children outside the marriage, or family feuds. We don’t ask the question that really matters: Are you happy?

Now that I am no longer a kid with barbies, I am much more interested in the couples who are happy. Someone being in a relationship for seventy years doesn’t mean a thing to me if they spent more time crying than smiling. So when I talk to young girls and boys, college students, and adults, I don’t focus on weddings. I talk to them about being happy.

And whether that means that they never get married, they have a $200 wedding reception, or they have a $100,000 wedding, I want to ensure that the focus is on their relationship and not just one single day. I don’t ever want them to be in the ‘unhappy group’ with kids, credit cards, a mortgage, and student loan payments. At that moment, the most fantastic wedding in the world won’t provide any comfort to the debt you have accrued and frowns you have collected.

Increasing Your Self-Confidence

As women, all of us have battles.  Sometimes they are public and sometimes they are private.  Self-confidence affects us all.

If you can relate, I'd love for you to check me out on the Women In Leadership Podcast, hosted by AnneMarie Cross.

Check it out at bit.ly/2lbIJ6T

Love, Brunch & Conversation

Why are the same types of people drawn to you?  And even when you think you have a great first date, how do you make sure that you get to that second date?

Dating can be difficult.  Knowing what to say and what not to say is even more difficult.  

I'm here to help. 

Six years ago I was is the same place.  But I cracked the code on dating AND online dating.  Instead of just finding any person, I found the right person.  We met through a popular dating website.

On Sunday, June 4th, at Mulebone Restaurant in Washington, D.C., I'm hosting Love, Brunch & Conversation: Getting Beyond The First Date.

Over brunch, you’ll learn how to:

  • Attract better quality matches for a great first date and beyond
  • Ask the right questions and avoid the wrong ones  
  • Navigate questions about your past and other tough subjects
  • Attract matches who share your interests and values
  • And much more!

Plus, you will meet other like-minded local professionals and entrepreneurs who are also looking to attract more love in their lives and can support you in your journey.

YOUR TICKET INCLUDES:

  • 60-minute fun and interactive session hosted by me
  • 30-minute Q&A session
  • Brunch and mimosas
  • Free swag bag

I look forward to seeing you there.  I promise that you will have fun, learn more about getting to the second date, and meet other fabulous women.  On top of all of that...brunch will be amazing.

Get your tickets before they sell out at bit.ly/gettingbeyondthefirstdate.