Netflix and Relationships

For every new series I have watched on Netflix, I haven’t always been hooked from day one. Whether it was Orange is the New Black or House of Cards, I was iffy about the first episode. The second episode, grabbed me a little more and by the third, I was ready to binge watch for the entire weekend.

For other shows, I watched three episodes, sometimes four, and just could not get into them. The beginning of a relationship can be very similar to a new series. If we are looking for something great, more than likely it will be completely different from everything we have known in the past. Something different can make everything inside of us uncomfortable and make us want to change the channel, run, or go back to what we know.

Happiness doesn’t always come riding in on a white horse with balloons and flowers and fireworks. Happiness may at first be uncomfortable. It causes us to ask questions, to come up with our own answers, and justify why we shouldn’t continue. But in order to be happy, it requires us to make a new choice. So in order to experience the happiness we have never felt, we may sometimes have to experience emotions that we have never felt.

During the first few weeks of dating, my husband and I spent an hour cooking dinner together. As we sat down to eat, he jumped up and grabbed two candles, lit them, and dimmed the lights. I felt the tears welling up in my eyes. All of a sudden it hit me that I had never had a candlelit dinner. It made me sad that for so many years, I dated men that never put me first.

So as you head down the path of dating or online dating, pay attention to the new feelings that you experience. Stick through the initial discomfort in order to see what awaits you on the other side. Sometimes, it may be time to move onto something else. More often than not, it may be the key to opening up an entirely new side of life, one that is destined to lead to a binge worthy experience.