There is no doubt that anniversaries are a huge deal for most people. Whether it is the day they met, their first date, or the day they were married, it marks a celebration. If you are into anniversaries, I completely understand what it must feel like for someone to forget. What I can’t grasp is the desire for people to “test” their significant other.
Let me give you an example of what I mean. I overheard a woman say, “I want to see if my husband remembers our anniversary. I’m not uttering a word. Every year, I have to remind him. This year, I want to see if he remembers on his own and see what he does.” Instead of waking up, rolling over, and greeting her husband with, Happy Anniversary, she rolled out of bed, took a shower, went to work, and was salty all day long because her husband hadn’t sent her flowers or called her. I call that wasted energy.
My oldest brother is the worst when it comes to remembering birthdays. I literally have to call him to remind him the week before, the night before, and the morning of any family member’s birthday. This includes my mother’s and even my own. I’m so over taking it personally. He just doesn’t do well with remembering birthdays. He has proven that year after year.
When you test a person, it almost always ends in failure. And what is really the purpose of the test? If they remember does it mean they love you? If they forget does it mean you chose the wrong person? It really can be as simple as the fact that they are forgetful or they don’t place the same value on one particular day.
Life is too short to treat your mate like a child. You may as well be saying, “I wonder if he remembered to clean his room. I’m not telling him again. If he didn’t, I am going to ground him when I get home.”
That woman could have saved a lot of time, energy, and stress just by saying, “Hey sweetie, what do you want to do for our anniversary on Friday?” Decide as a couple if you want to go out to dinner, cook at home, head out for a movie, or celebrate with friends and family. Trust me, it will work out a lot better for both of you. After all, it’s not just your anniversary. It is a day for both of you.